In Loving Memory of Todd — A Devoted Husband, Father, Correctional Officer, and Hero in Silence
With an unbearably heavy heart, we share the heartbreaking news of the passing of Todd, a cherished brother, husband, father, and dedicated public servant. His loss has sent ripples of grief through all who knew and loved him — his family, his friends, his colleagues, and his community. Todd was not just someone who wore a uniform; he was a man of deep integrity, compassion, and resilience. A protector by nature and profession, he fought every day not only for public safety but for the well-being of those he loved the most.
Todd worked long and grueling hours as a correctional officer for the State of California, a role that demands unimaginable emotional strength. He took great pride in his work, giving everything he had to support his family and fulfill his duty. But his truest passion, and the role he held most sacred, was that of a husband and father.
A Devoted Family Man
Todd was the beating heart of his home. He shared a beautiful life with his wife, Samantha, a full-time employment counselor at Calaveras County Human Services. Together, they built a life grounded in love, commitment, and community service. Samantha, just like Todd, has devoted her professional life to helping others — and now, she finds herself navigating an unfathomable personal loss with strength and grace.
Their children — Dylan (15), Warren (5), and Alden (2) — were Todd’s entire world. He lived for their laughter, their hugs, their accomplishments, and even their messy, beautiful chaos. Dylan, wise beyond his years, often mirrored his father’s quiet strength. Warren, curious and energetic, could always bring a smile to Todd’s face, while baby Alden brought joy in the form of innocence and wonder. Todd’s love for his family knew no limits — and that love will live on in the hearts and memories they hold close.
The Unseen Battle: Mental Health in the Line of Duty
What many do not see — what is too often ignored — is the silent war correctional officers face behind the walls. Every day, they walk into an environment of volatility, hostility, and trauma. They absorb pain, bear witness to human suffering, and must carry the weight of their duties home with them — often in silence.
The mental and emotional cost is profound. Studies have shown that correctional officers are up to seven times more likely to die by suicide than the general population. The job demands mental armor, but that armor often comes at the cost of personal peace.
Todd knew he was struggling, and he bravely sought help. He was working with a therapist, engaging in counseling, and doing everything he could to stay afloat. But the weight of emotional exhaustion and psychache — the intense, unbearable psychological pain that can make even survival feel impossible — eventually became too much.
It is important to remember: Todd did not choose to die; he fought to live. He fought harder than many will ever know. His death is not a failure — not of character, courage, or strength. It is a tragic reflection of a system that doesn’t yet do enough to support the mental health of those who protect others.
Honoring His Legacy
Todd’s story is one that must be told — not only to honor his legacy, but to amplify the conversation around mental health, particularly among first responders and correctional staff. His life was a testament to quiet strength, tireless love, and relentless effort. His passing is a stark reminder that even our strongest need support, compassion, and a safe place to be vulnerable.
He leaves behind a loving wife, three precious children, and a devastated family that will never stop loving him. He also leaves behind a call to action — for agencies, communities, and leaders to invest in real, compassionate mental health support for those in the trenches.
A Final Goodbye
To know Todd was to love him. His humor, kindness, and steadfastness touched many lives. He listened without judgment, helped without hesitation, and loved without condition. The void left in his absence is vast, but so is the love that remains.
As we mourn Todd’s death, we also celebrate the life he lived. A life that mattered. A life that gave. A life that, even in its pain, left behind a message of hope and the urgent need for change.
May we remember Todd not just for how he left us, but for how he lived: with honor, love, and incredible devotion.
Rest in eternal peace, Todd. You were deeply loved, and you will never, ever be forgotten.
If you or someone you know is struggling, please know that help is available. You are not alone.
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 (Call or Text)
Safe Call Now (for first responders): 1-206-459-3020
Text “BLUE” to 741741 for 24/7 mental health support.
